The Hottest Tips to Introduce a Vibrator in Your Sex Life With Your Partner
Is the word “vibrator” still giving you a little giggle? If so, you’re not alone. While I should act more mature when discussing it with my fiancé, it’s almost impossible not to smile coyly. However, until a few years ago, this wouldn’t have been possible because we were just getting comfortable with each other sexually. This is until certain things that even my partner needed to take sex pills to get engaged.
In some cases, your personal history can cause both of you to feel apprehensive about certain things, like sex. But if you suggest that you use sex toys, like vibrators, that can create some unintentional tensions and misunderstandings. But it’s not supposed to be this way. Here are the best ways to do it.
Be Open and Talk About It
You and your partner may approach sex differently, which is perfectly normal. In spite of where your sexual interests lie, it’s a good idea to discuss introducing a vibrator if you’ve never used one together before. One person might enjoy foreplay, while the other likes to get the deed done. Furthermore, it completely doesn’t matter who gets the conversation going first. If you realize your partner isn’t great at being caught off guard, you can definitely arrange a time to talk over wine or while watching your favorite show.
“Netflix and Chill” exists because it seems to create an enticing atmosphere to watch a TV screen next to someone you’re attracted to. In contrast, if your partner doesn’t mind talking about certain topics during breakfast, you can bring them up then. Just like sex can easily be filled with various moments, including awkward ones, it’s OK if the conversation isn’t perfect. Communicating desires and discussing any concerns is the goal, not perfection.
Reassure
It’s important to respect your partner’s feelings when it comes to sex and sex toys. When they are concerned that you are not satisfied with their sexual performance, you can assure them you enjoy it. Talking about intimacy is another way to reassure them. Intimacy isn’t just about sex, but maybe you can talk about how fun it is to use a vibrator together.
Research and Hit the Vibrator Market Together
With so many vibrators on the market, it can be difficult to choose something you and your partner will like. Your partner and you may have different sexual desires from time to time, as no two couples are alike. It’s great to do research together because you’re able to see what’s out there and figure out what vibrator you’d like. Consider this research as a sexy scavenger hunt—do you want clitoral stimulation in certain positions? Are you interested in anal play? Would you like something that works for both of you at the same time? You can explore everything out there, whether you want to shop in person or from your own home.
Slow Down and Set Your Pace
It’s OK to take your time when trying something new for the first time. In this case, we’re talking about the huge potential orgasm(s) you might have with your partner. Once you’ve settled things out about the settings you want to use on your sex toys, both of you can explore different positions with it as much as possible. As you introduce the vibrator during sex, it’s OK to feel frustrated. The ultimate goal is whatever you and your partner decide, but feeling frustrated shouldn’t be part of that process. The best way to introduce the vibrator is to have a discussion about when you both want to use it together. Spontaneity may work for some couples, but you may feel more comfortable if you know what to expect.…